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Do you like to compliment people?译文简介
网友：我喜欢给予真诚的赞美，优彩彩票网官网：看到接受者的微笑和他们”发光”眼睛。这让我很高兴。对我来说，赞美有多种类型：当我看到我喜欢或想要的东西时,表达羡慕的赞美.......
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Do you like to compliment people?
你喜欢赞美别人吗？
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Abida Mian, Life's too short not to be nice.
Abida Mian，生命太短暂，不能不美好。
Abida Mian，生命太短暂，不能不美好。
Compliments to instill confidence:
Sometimes you recognise that people need a helping hand to boost their self-confidence.
Once I found myself behind a woman who complained that her coffee was not hot enough. Now, there's absolutely nothing wrong in complaining, but it's the manner in which you do it. This obnoxious lady made such a commotion, you could probably hear her from the other end of the street. Her comments were unnecessary and made the barista feel small. I could see her face was bright red and she had a tear falling down her cheek. She was a young foreign university student, when it came to my turn, I told her that she made the best hot chocolate, the sweet guy behind me also reinforced me, by saying she made the best latte. I told her to use that woman as a motivator to smash her end of year exams. She laughed.
用于树立信心的赞美：
有时你会意识到人们需要有人搭把手来增强他们的自信。
有一次我发现自己站在一个女人后面，她抱怨她的咖啡不够热。抱怨绝对没有错，但这种做事的方式存在问题。这位令人讨厌的女士引起了很大的骚动，你大概能从街的另一端听到她的声音。她的评论是没有必要的，并且让咖啡师觉得自己很难堪。我可以看到她的脸都是红的，她的脸颊上有一滴眼泪。她是一个年轻的外国大学生，轮到我的时候，我告诉她她做的热巧克力是最棒的，我身后的热心人也顺着我说的，说她做的拿铁是最好的。我告诉她要用那个女人来激励她通过年终考核。她笑了。
Sometimes you recognise that people need a helping hand to boost their self-confidence.
Once I found myself behind a woman who complained that her coffee was not hot enough. Now, there's absolutely nothing wrong in complaining, but it's the manner in which you do it. This obnoxious lady made such a commotion, you could probably hear her from the other end of the street. Her comments were unnecessary and made the barista feel small. I could see her face was bright red and she had a tear falling down her cheek. She was a young foreign university student, when it came to my turn, I told her that she made the best hot chocolate, the sweet guy behind me also reinforced me, by saying she made the best latte. I told her to use that woman as a motivator to smash her end of year exams. She laughed.
用于树立信心的赞美：
有时你会意识到人们需要有人搭把手来增强他们的自信。
有一次我发现自己站在一个女人后面，她抱怨她的咖啡不够热。抱怨绝对没有错，但这种做事的方式存在问题。这位令人讨厌的女士引起了很大的骚动，你大概能从街的另一端听到她的声音。她的评论是没有必要的，并且让咖啡师觉得自己很难堪。我可以看到她的脸都是红的，她的脸颊上有一滴眼泪。她是一个年轻的外国大学生，轮到我的时候，我告诉她她做的热巧克力是最棒的，我身后的热心人也顺着我说的，说她做的拿铁是最好的。我告诉她要用那个女人来激励她通过年终考核。她笑了。
One evening, I was working late and my work colleague got changed out of his suit into a smart/casual outfit. I immediately told him he looked handsome, and asked where he was heading. Him: "Abs, I'm supposed to meeting a girl in an hour for a date." Me: "That's exciting (knowing that he hadn't been on a date in three years since his first girlfriend broke his heart)." Him: "The thing is, I don't think I can do this, and he grabs his mobile, I'm going to cancel." Me: "WTF, the golden rule, never cancel a date at the last minute with a girl. I grab his phone, and ask him to explain what the issue is. Do you like her?" Him: "Yes, she's a really cool girl, but I'm just setting myself up for a fall, it's not going to work out." I recognise he's insecure. Me: "You've got everything. You're smart, funny, kind, honest, hard working, handsome, young. You have so much to offer someone. Would you rather be at home alone with a meal for one, or go out and have fun with this cool girl? Sure, there's a chance you might not connect, but at least you won't be thinking 'what if', there's also the probability you'll hit it off, now that may continue for weeks, months, years or possibly a lifetime, no one can guarantee the outcome. One thing is for sure, by not even bothering to give it a shot, you've already failed, and may never get an opportunity with her again. So, do you still want to bail?" Him: "Ok, I'll go." Just before midnight that evening, I receive a text from him. "The date went well, we kissed, I think she likes me. Thanks, mum ;) x"
Cheeky g**, I'm not that old ;)
Compliments cost nothing, in the right context spread happiness, and can also mean a lot...
一天晚上，我工作到很晚，同事换上了一套时髦休闲的衣服。我立刻告诉他他看起来很帅，问他要去哪里。他：“准确的说，我准备在一小时后去和一个女孩约会。”我：“那很令人兴奋（我知道自从他的第一个女朋友伤了他的心，他已经三年没有约会了）。”他：“问题是，我认为我做不到这一点。”他拿起他的手机，“我要取消约会。”我：“什么鬼，黄金法则，永远不要在最后一刻取消和一个女孩在一起的约会。”我拿起他的电话，让他解释问题所在，“你喜欢她吗？”他说：“是的，她是个很酷的女孩，但我觉得自己会失败，这不会成功的。”我意识到他没有安全感。我：“你什么都有。你聪明、有趣、善良、诚实、勤奋、英俊、年轻。你有很多东西可以展现给别人。你愿意一个人呆在家里吃一顿饭，还是出去和这个酷女孩玩？当然，有可能你们没有成功，但至少你不会去想“如果”，也有可能你们会一拍即合，现在这种情况可能会持续数周、数月、数年甚至可能一辈子，没有人能保证结果。有一点是肯定的，如果懒得尝试，你就已经失败了，可能再也没有机会和她在一起了。那么，你还想放弃吗？”他：“好的，我去。”那天晚上午夜前，我收到了他的短信：“约会很顺利，我们接吻了，我想她喜欢我。谢谢，妈妈“
厚颜无耻的家伙，我没那么老好吧
赞美不费吹灰之力，就能在正确的语境中传播快乐，也可以意味着很多。
Cheeky g**, I'm not that old ;)
Compliments cost nothing, in the right context spread happiness, and can also mean a lot...
一天晚上，我工作到很晚，同事换上了一套时髦休闲的衣服。我立刻告诉他他看起来很帅，问他要去哪里。他：“准确的说，我准备在一小时后去和一个女孩约会。”我：“那很令人兴奋（我知道自从他的第一个女朋友伤了他的心，他已经三年没有约会了）。”他：“问题是，我认为我做不到这一点。”他拿起他的手机，“我要取消约会。”我：“什么鬼，黄金法则，永远不要在最后一刻取消和一个女孩在一起的约会。”我拿起他的电话，让他解释问题所在，“你喜欢她吗？”他说：“是的，她是个很酷的女孩，但我觉得自己会失败，这不会成功的。”我意识到他没有安全感。我：“你什么都有。你聪明、有趣、善良、诚实、勤奋、英俊、年轻。你有很多东西可以展现给别人。你愿意一个人呆在家里吃一顿饭，还是出去和这个酷女孩玩？当然，有可能你们没有成功，但至少你不会去想“如果”，也有可能你们会一拍即合，现在这种情况可能会持续数周、数月、数年甚至可能一辈子，没有人能保证结果。有一点是肯定的，如果懒得尝试，你就已经失败了，可能再也没有机会和她在一起了。那么，你还想放弃吗？”他：“好的，我去。”那天晚上午夜前，我收到了他的短信：“约会很顺利，我们接吻了，我想她喜欢我。谢谢，妈妈“
厚颜无耻的家伙，我没那么老好吧
赞美不费吹灰之力，就能在正确的语境中传播快乐，也可以意味着很多。
Lucas Lundstr?m, expert, specialist and professional.
Lucas Lundstr?m，专家、行家和专业人士。
Lucas Lundstr?m，专家、行家和专业人士。
Myself I stopped giving compliments to people I don't know well sometime around when it went past 50% that seemed negatively effected instead of positively. A few scenarios to explain:
-Nice jacket! :)
-Oh, thank you, it's new. :)
-Nice jacket! :)
-Ehrm. I have a boyfriend. Creep. >:(
-Nice jacket! :)
-What's wrong with my jacket..? Creep. >:(
-Nice jacket!
-Fuck off stranger. You have no rights commenting on my jacket. Creep. >:(
就我自己而言，我不再对我不太熟悉的人进行赞美了，当赞美的程度超过50%时，它似乎变得是反面意思的，而不是正面意思啦的。接下来要解释的几个场景：
夹克好漂亮！
哦，谢谢，这是新的。
夹克好漂亮！
-呃，我有男朋友了。马屁精。
夹克好漂亮！
-我的夹克怎么了？马屁精。
夹克好漂亮！
-滚开陌生人。你无权评论我的夹克。马屁精。
-Nice jacket! :)
-Oh, thank you, it's new. :)
-Nice jacket! :)
-Ehrm. I have a boyfriend. Creep. >:(
-Nice jacket! :)
-What's wrong with my jacket..? Creep. >:(
-Nice jacket!
-Fuck off stranger. You have no rights commenting on my jacket. Creep. >:(
就我自己而言，我不再对我不太熟悉的人进行赞美了，当赞美的程度超过50%时，它似乎变得是反面意思的，而不是正面意思啦的。接下来要解释的几个场景：
夹克好漂亮！
哦，谢谢，这是新的。
夹克好漂亮！
-呃，我有男朋友了。马屁精。
夹克好漂亮！
-我的夹克怎么了？马屁精。
夹克好漂亮！
-滚开陌生人。你无权评论我的夹克。马屁精。
I feel people these days quite often get pretty grumpy when you compliment them. Especially young women who feel it is no man's right to comment on their looks or behaviour. I used to give compliments every now and then but have almost stopped doing it to people I don't know _very_ well. I still give my close friends and my girlfriend compliments sometimes.
It is just such a drag when you see something wonderful and try to give an honest and positive compliment to someone while out on the town and this happens:
"-Wow, that is a wonderful hair style!
-What? What did you say to me? What do you think gives you the right to comment on my hair? What gives you the right to go around judging people and coming with degrading shallow remarks like that? Do you think that just because you think something or someone is pretty that makes it OK to just throw it out there as some sort of approval? Like some sort of 'Hi. I am a white man, and that means I can go around commenting on how other people look.' ? Fucking pig! Leave me alone."
我觉得现在的人们在你称赞他们的时候，总是脾气暴躁。尤其是年轻女性，她们觉得男人无权评论自己的长相或行为。我过去常常时不时地赞美别人，但现在几乎不再对我不太熟悉的人进行赞美了。但有时我还是会给我的好朋友和女朋友表示赞美。
当你在外出玩乐时看到一些美好的事物，并试图给某人一个诚实和积极的赞美时，这会变成一种拖累，这种情况时常会发生：
哇，这发型真棒！
-什么？你跟我说了什么？你觉得你有什么权利评论我的头发？是什么让你有权到处评判别人，发表这样有辱人格的浅薄言论？你认为仅仅因为你觉得某样东西或某个人很漂亮就可以把它作为某种认可说出来吗？就像“嗨。我是个白人。”这意味着我可以到处评论别人的长相吗？他妈的蠢猪！请别打扰我。”
It is just such a drag when you see something wonderful and try to give an honest and positive compliment to someone while out on the town and this happens:
"-Wow, that is a wonderful hair style!
-What? What did you say to me? What do you think gives you the right to comment on my hair? What gives you the right to go around judging people and coming with degrading shallow remarks like that? Do you think that just because you think something or someone is pretty that makes it OK to just throw it out there as some sort of approval? Like some sort of 'Hi. I am a white man, and that means I can go around commenting on how other people look.' ? Fucking pig! Leave me alone."
我觉得现在的人们在你称赞他们的时候，总是脾气暴躁。尤其是年轻女性，她们觉得男人无权评论自己的长相或行为。我过去常常时不时地赞美别人，但现在几乎不再对我不太熟悉的人进行赞美了。但有时我还是会给我的好朋友和女朋友表示赞美。
当你在外出玩乐时看到一些美好的事物，并试图给某人一个诚实和积极的赞美时，这会变成一种拖累，这种情况时常会发生：
哇，这发型真棒！
-什么？你跟我说了什么？你觉得你有什么权利评论我的头发？是什么让你有权到处评判别人，发表这样有辱人格的浅薄言论？你认为仅仅因为你觉得某样东西或某个人很漂亮就可以把它作为某种认可说出来吗？就像“嗨。我是个白人。”这意味着我可以到处评论别人的长相吗？他妈的蠢猪！请别打扰我。”
Thea Pilarczyk, Storyteller, mother, human being.
Thea Pilarczyk，讲故事的人，母亲，人类。
Thea Pilarczyk，讲故事的人，母亲，人类。
Yes, but not if they've just complimented me.
There's an unspoken societal norm that dictates when you receive a compliment, you give a compliment in return. It's a transaction of sorts, and I used to partake in it, just as most people do.
Then one day, when I was in college, I read an article about how to be a more genuine, likable person. I forget how I came across it, or why I thought it would be valuable reading. But I do remember one piece of advice that stuck with me:
If someone gives you a compliment, don't immediately give them a compliment back. It will sound forced, and not genuine. They won't really believe you mean it. Instead, thank them, and then find another time later to pay them a genuine compliment in return.
是的，但如果他们只是赞美我就不会这样做了。
有一个不成文的社会规范，当你收到赞美时，你会给予一个赞美作为回报。这是一种交易，我过去就像大多数人一样，也参与其中。
后来有一天，当我在大学的时候，我读了一篇关于如何成为一个更真诚，更讨人喜欢的人的文章。我忘了我是怎么发现它的，也忘了为什么我认为它会是一本一篇有价值的文章。但我记得有一条建议一直萦绕在我心头：
如果有人赞美你，不要马上回敬他。这听起来是被迫的，而不是真实的。他们不会真的相信你是认真的。相反，要感谢他们，然后再找一个时间给他们一个真诚的赞美作为回报。
There's an unspoken societal norm that dictates when you receive a compliment, you give a compliment in return. It's a transaction of sorts, and I used to partake in it, just as most people do.
Then one day, when I was in college, I read an article about how to be a more genuine, likable person. I forget how I came across it, or why I thought it would be valuable reading. But I do remember one piece of advice that stuck with me:
If someone gives you a compliment, don't immediately give them a compliment back. It will sound forced, and not genuine. They won't really believe you mean it. Instead, thank them, and then find another time later to pay them a genuine compliment in return.
是的，但如果他们只是赞美我就不会这样做了。
有一个不成文的社会规范，当你收到赞美时，你会给予一个赞美作为回报。这是一种交易，我过去就像大多数人一样，也参与其中。
后来有一天，当我在大学的时候，我读了一篇关于如何成为一个更真诚，更讨人喜欢的人的文章。我忘了我是怎么发现它的，也忘了为什么我认为它会是一本一篇有价值的文章。但我记得有一条建议一直萦绕在我心头：
如果有人赞美你，不要马上回敬他。这听起来是被迫的，而不是真实的。他们不会真的相信你是认真的。相反，要感谢他们，然后再找一个时间给他们一个真诚的赞美作为回报。
I realized that this was something I did often, and I would prefer that people take my compliments to heart, so I resolved to stop.
That very evening, I went to a party. As I was leaving, I ran into an acquaintance, who immediately complimented me on something I was wearing. Aha! I thought, a chance to practice what I've learned today!
"Thanks!" I replied.
Then came the awkward pause, where no one is quite sure who will speak next, because something is expected (my return compliment), but it's not coming. I wavered. I panicked. I hastened to fill the empty air:
"I would give you a compliment too but I just read this article today about how you shouldn't give compliments to people just after they've given you one because it makes you sound fake and I wouldn't want you to think I was being fake or anything."
Another awkward silence...I could feel my cheeks flushing.
"Not that you don't deserve a compliment right now you look very nice tonight too and I'm sure there are plenty of things I could say that are nice I just can't think of any right now!"
A third awkward pause. She smiled at me like I had just said a dirty joke in reverse.
"OKAYNOWBYE!" I lobbed as I scuttled out the door.
I must have missed the part in the article where it said that after you say "thank you," to stop bloody talking.
So from that moment on, I decided to never hold back a compliment if it felt right to give one. But if I also decided that if I didn't want to give one back, I would simply say "thanks"...and then change the subject as quickly as polite conversation would allow.
I still feel awkward about it.
我意识到这是我经常做的事，我更希望人们能把我的赞美放在心上，所以我决定不再这么做。
那天晚上，我去参加了一个聚会。当我要离开的时候，我遇到了一个熟人，他马上称赞了我的穿着。啊哈！这是一个实践今天所学知识的机会！
“谢谢！”我回答说。
然后是尴尬的停顿，没有人很确定下一步该说些什么，因为有些事情是意料之中的（我的回敬），但并没有坚持太久。我动摇了。我有点惊慌失措，赶紧填补尴尬的气氛：
“我想给你一个赞美，但我今天刚刚读了一篇文章，说你不应该在别人给你赞美之后就赞美他们，因为这会让你的赞美听起来很虚伪，我不想让你认为我是虚伪的。”
又一次尴尬的沉默，我能感觉到我的脸颊开始泛红。
“并不是说你现在不值得称赞，你今晚看起来也很好，我相信有很多东西我都可以说它们很不错，只是我现在想不到任何事情！”
第三次尴尬的停顿。她朝我笑了笑，好像我刚说了一个肮脏的笑话一样。
“好的，再见！”我急急忙忙地走出了门。
我一定忽视了那篇文章里说的，在你说“谢谢”之后，就别再胡说了。
所以从那一刻起，我决定，如果我觉得回敬赞美是对的，就永远不要停止。但是，我也决定如果我不想回敬一个赞美，我会简单地说“谢谢”，然后在礼貌谈话允许的范围内尽快改变话题。
我对此仍然感到尴尬。
That very evening, I went to a party. As I was leaving, I ran into an acquaintance, who immediately complimented me on something I was wearing. Aha! I thought, a chance to practice what I've learned today!
"Thanks!" I replied.
Then came the awkward pause, where no one is quite sure who will speak next, because something is expected (my return compliment), but it's not coming. I wavered. I panicked. I hastened to fill the empty air:
"I would give you a compliment too but I just read this article today about how you shouldn't give compliments to people just after they've given you one because it makes you sound fake and I wouldn't want you to think I was being fake or anything."
Another awkward silence...I could feel my cheeks flushing.
"Not that you don't deserve a compliment right now you look very nice tonight too and I'm sure there are plenty of things I could say that are nice I just can't think of any right now!"
A third awkward pause. She smiled at me like I had just said a dirty joke in reverse.
"OKAYNOWBYE!" I lobbed as I scuttled out the door.
I must have missed the part in the article where it said that after you say "thank you," to stop bloody talking.
So from that moment on, I decided to never hold back a compliment if it felt right to give one. But if I also decided that if I didn't want to give one back, I would simply say "thanks"...and then change the subject as quickly as polite conversation would allow.
I still feel awkward about it.
我意识到这是我经常做的事，我更希望人们能把我的赞美放在心上，所以我决定不再这么做。
那天晚上，我去参加了一个聚会。当我要离开的时候，我遇到了一个熟人，他马上称赞了我的穿着。啊哈！这是一个实践今天所学知识的机会！
“谢谢！”我回答说。
然后是尴尬的停顿，没有人很确定下一步该说些什么，因为有些事情是意料之中的（我的回敬），但并没有坚持太久。我动摇了。我有点惊慌失措，赶紧填补尴尬的气氛：
“我想给你一个赞美，但我今天刚刚读了一篇文章，说你不应该在别人给你赞美之后就赞美他们，因为这会让你的赞美听起来很虚伪，我不想让你认为我是虚伪的。”
又一次尴尬的沉默，我能感觉到我的脸颊开始泛红。
“并不是说你现在不值得称赞，你今晚看起来也很好，我相信有很多东西我都可以说它们很不错，只是我现在想不到任何事情！”
第三次尴尬的停顿。她朝我笑了笑，好像我刚说了一个肮脏的笑话一样。
“好的，再见！”我急急忙忙地走出了门。
我一定忽视了那篇文章里说的，在你说“谢谢”之后，就别再胡说了。
所以从那一刻起，我决定，如果我觉得回敬赞美是对的，就永远不要停止。但是，我也决定如果我不想回敬一个赞美，我会简单地说“谢谢”，然后在礼貌谈话允许的范围内尽快改变话题。
我对此仍然感到尴尬。
Martina Solmes, Code-switcher
There are various reasons. Some people do it genuinely to give someone else something positive to think about. They do it to uplift or reward or encourage. Others do it out of shallow and selfish reasons - because they want to get into someone's pants, because they want a promotion, a good grade or just generally to ingratiate themselves.
A compliment is genuine when it is accurate, specific, and given in the right place and time. And also if it aligns with your own understanding of yourself. People usually know where they stand, so for instance to call a 70 year old a beautiful young lady who gets younger and younger everyday would be disingenuous because we all know it's not true.
Or the people who compliment us on how well we speak a language when we've literally just made a mistake or spouted a few phrases we memorized from a web article.
Lastly, there's a gut feeling when a compliment is genuine. If the compliment doesn't make sense or seems to have no reason at all, it's probably not genuine.
There are exceptions, for example when a stranger walks up to you and tells you how great your shoes look.
But these are far and few between.
Most of the time, if the compliment is not tied to something specific or seems out of place, it is inappropriate.
原因是多方面的。有些人这样做是为了给别人一些积极的想法。他们这样做是为了令人振奋、奖励或鼓励他人等。其他人这样做可能是出于肤浅和自私的原因，因为他们想进入某人的圈子，因为他们想要晋升，想要好的成绩或只是为了巴结他们。
当赞美是准确的，具体的，并在正确的地点和时间，而且与你自己的理解一致时，它是真诚的。人们通常知道自己的立场，所以举个例子来说，把一个70岁的老人称为一个每天都越来越年轻的年轻漂亮的女士是不真诚的，因为我们都知道这不是真的。
或者，当我们真的犯了一个错误，或者说了几句我们从网络文章中背下来的短语时，有人还称赞我们说得多么好。
最后，当赞美是真诚的时候，你会有一种直觉。如果这种赞美没有意义或者似乎没有任何理由，那就很可能是不真实的。
当然也有例外，比如一个陌生人走过来告诉你你的鞋子有多好看。
但这两者相差甚远。
大多数情况下，如果赞美不是与某个特定的东西联系在一起或者看起来不合适，那就是不恰当的。
There are various reasons. Some people do it genuinely to give someone else something positive to think about. They do it to uplift or reward or encourage. Others do it out of shallow and selfish reasons - because they want to get into someone's pants, because they want a promotion, a good grade or just generally to ingratiate themselves.
A compliment is genuine when it is accurate, specific, and given in the right place and time. And also if it aligns with your own understanding of yourself. People usually know where they stand, so for instance to call a 70 year old a beautiful young lady who gets younger and younger everyday would be disingenuous because we all know it's not true.
Or the people who compliment us on how well we speak a language when we've literally just made a mistake or spouted a few phrases we memorized from a web article.
Lastly, there's a gut feeling when a compliment is genuine. If the compliment doesn't make sense or seems to have no reason at all, it's probably not genuine.
There are exceptions, for example when a stranger walks up to you and tells you how great your shoes look.
But these are far and few between.
Most of the time, if the compliment is not tied to something specific or seems out of place, it is inappropriate.
原因是多方面的。有些人这样做是为了给别人一些积极的想法。他们这样做是为了令人振奋、奖励或鼓励他人等。其他人这样做可能是出于肤浅和自私的原因，因为他们想进入某人的圈子，因为他们想要晋升，想要好的成绩或只是为了巴结他们。
当赞美是准确的，具体的，并在正确的地点和时间，而且与你自己的理解一致时，它是真诚的。人们通常知道自己的立场，所以举个例子来说，把一个70岁的老人称为一个每天都越来越年轻的年轻漂亮的女士是不真诚的，因为我们都知道这不是真的。
或者，当我们真的犯了一个错误，或者说了几句我们从网络文章中背下来的短语时，有人还称赞我们说得多么好。
最后，当赞美是真诚的时候，你会有一种直觉。如果这种赞美没有意义或者似乎没有任何理由，那就很可能是不真实的。
当然也有例外，比如一个陌生人走过来告诉你你的鞋子有多好看。
但这两者相差甚远。
大多数情况下，如果赞美不是与某个特定的东西联系在一起或者看起来不合适，那就是不恰当的。
Stephanie Vardavas, have been one all my life
I love complimenting people, especially strangers.
If I see a man in a great tie or a woman with great shoes or someone with great hair, I almost always say something. It doesn't have to be much.
"I love your shoes!"
"Excuse me, that's an excellent tie."
"Hey, I was standing behind you in line noticing that you have great hair."
"That's a wonderful jacket!"
People are disarmed and grateful, especially when it's clear that I don't want anything from them. A random, sincere compliment from a stranger is a great thing. I get compliments on my shoes a lot (I wear a lot of colorful shoes) and I know how much fun it is.
If everyone did this the world would be an ever-so-slightly happier place.
EDITED TO ADD: I fully recognize that I come to this from a position of middle-aged-middle-class-white-female privilege. I know that if I were a homeless black male teenager or some other configuration of race and class and gender, I would not feel privileged to address strangers in this way, and especially not anticipate any kind of positive response. To the extent possible for someone living in my particular cloud of privilege, I do try to be aware of it. And yes, this is one of its benefits.
我喜欢赞美别人，尤其是陌生人。
如果我看到一个打领带的男人，一个穿鞋子的女人，或者一个长头发的人，我几乎总是会说些什么。不需要说太多。
“我喜欢你的鞋子！”
“打扰一下，这条领带很棒。”
“嘿，我排队时站在你后面，注意到你的头发很漂亮。”
“这件夹克真漂亮！”
人们会放下防备，并心存感激，尤其是当我显然不想从他们那里得到任何东西的时候。一个陌生人随意的、真诚的赞美是一件好事。我经常得到别人对我的鞋子的称赞（我穿过很多五颜六色的鞋子），我知道这是多么有趣。
如果每个人都这样做，那么世界将变得更加幸福。
编辑补充：我充分认识到，我是从一个中产阶级的中年白人女性的立场讲的。我知道，如果我是一个无家可归的黑人男青年，或者是其他种族、阶级和性别的人，我不会觉得有特权用这种方式和陌生人说话，尤其是无法预料到任何积极的回应。在可能的范围内，对于一个生活在我这种特权下的人，我会尽可能地意识到这一点。是的，这是它的好处之一。
I love complimenting people, especially strangers.
If I see a man in a great tie or a woman with great shoes or someone with great hair, I almost always say something. It doesn't have to be much.
"I love your shoes!"
"Excuse me, that's an excellent tie."
"Hey, I was standing behind you in line noticing that you have great hair."
"That's a wonderful jacket!"
People are disarmed and grateful, especially when it's clear that I don't want anything from them. A random, sincere compliment from a stranger is a great thing. I get compliments on my shoes a lot (I wear a lot of colorful shoes) and I know how much fun it is.
If everyone did this the world would be an ever-so-slightly happier place.
EDITED TO ADD: I fully recognize that I come to this from a position of middle-aged-middle-class-white-female privilege. I know that if I were a homeless black male teenager or some other configuration of race and class and gender, I would not feel privileged to address strangers in this way, and especially not anticipate any kind of positive response. To the extent possible for someone living in my particular cloud of privilege, I do try to be aware of it. And yes, this is one of its benefits.
我喜欢赞美别人，尤其是陌生人。
如果我看到一个打领带的男人，一个穿鞋子的女人，或者一个长头发的人，我几乎总是会说些什么。不需要说太多。
“我喜欢你的鞋子！”
“打扰一下，这条领带很棒。”
“嘿，我排队时站在你后面，注意到你的头发很漂亮。”
“这件夹克真漂亮！”
人们会放下防备，并心存感激，尤其是当我显然不想从他们那里得到任何东西的时候。一个陌生人随意的、真诚的赞美是一件好事。我经常得到别人对我的鞋子的称赞（我穿过很多五颜六色的鞋子），我知道这是多么有趣。
如果每个人都这样做，那么世界将变得更加幸福。
编辑补充：我充分认识到，我是从一个中产阶级的中年白人女性的立场讲的。我知道，如果我是一个无家可归的黑人男青年，或者是其他种族、阶级和性别的人，我不会觉得有特权用这种方式和陌生人说话，尤其是无法预料到任何积极的回应。在可能的范围内，对于一个生活在我这种特权下的人，我会尽可能地意识到这一点。是的，这是它的好处之一。
Sarada Janardhan
I always tell people that you compliment yourself for the even small good things you do, compliment people around not expecting anything in return from them.
But, in reality, I don't compliment much :-(
I set very high standards to myself that most often I don't feel great about what I did.
I don't compliment others until it is really out of the box, which I could not even think of but absolutely true or worth mention.
Of course, I feel good when somebody gives me even small compliments that my ear ring is nice, my outfit is cute. Also, when I compliment others for a very normal thing that anybody would do, I see that they are extremely delighted for I have noticed their effort. But, that doesn't happen everyday, only once in a while. If the question is just whether I like to compliment people - simply yes, I was just explaining in detail on how often it happens.
我总是告诉人们，即使你做了一件很小的好事，你也要赞美自己，赞美周围的人，同时不要期望他们有任何回报。
但实际上，我并不怎么赞美别人。
我给自己设定了很高的标准，大多数时候我都对自己所做的事情感到不满意。
我不会赞美别人，除非别人是真的非常好，我甚至不能想到要赞美别人，但如果赞美那绝对真实或有值得一提的赞美的地方。
当然，当有人对我说我的耳环很漂亮，我的衣服很可爱时，我会觉得很好。而且，当我称赞别人做了一件任何人都会做的很正常的事情时，我看到他们非常高兴。但是，这并不是每天都发生，只是偶尔发生一次，如果问题只是我是否喜欢赞美别人——简单地说是的，我刚只是详细解释了这种情况发生的频率。
I always tell people that you compliment yourself for the even small good things you do, compliment people around not expecting anything in return from them.
But, in reality, I don't compliment much :-(
I set very high standards to myself that most often I don't feel great about what I did.
I don't compliment others until it is really out of the box, which I could not even think of but absolutely true or worth mention.
Of course, I feel good when somebody gives me even small compliments that my ear ring is nice, my outfit is cute. Also, when I compliment others for a very normal thing that anybody would do, I see that they are extremely delighted for I have noticed their effort. But, that doesn't happen everyday, only once in a while. If the question is just whether I like to compliment people - simply yes, I was just explaining in detail on how often it happens.
我总是告诉人们，即使你做了一件很小的好事，你也要赞美自己，赞美周围的人，同时不要期望他们有任何回报。
但实际上，我并不怎么赞美别人。
我给自己设定了很高的标准，大多数时候我都对自己所做的事情感到不满意。
我不会赞美别人，除非别人是真的非常好，我甚至不能想到要赞美别人，但如果赞美那绝对真实或有值得一提的赞美的地方。
当然，当有人对我说我的耳环很漂亮，我的衣服很可爱时，我会觉得很好。而且，当我称赞别人做了一件任何人都会做的很正常的事情时，我看到他们非常高兴。但是，这并不是每天都发生，只是偶尔发生一次，如果问题只是我是否喜欢赞美别人——简单地说是的，我刚只是详细解释了这种情况发生的频率。
Mehul Azad, I can turn my charm on and off.
I've observed the following reasons:
1) When something of the other person catches our attention and we'd like to know more about it.
Example- "Where did you buy that watch from?" Vs "Nice watch! Where did you buy it from?"
Second form will almost always get the desired response.
2) To acknowledge someone's efforts when we see an impressive change.
3) To flatter someone for any kind of personal gain, which the receiver may or may not be aware of.
4) When an unadultrated good thought about someone crosses our mind, sharing it has a remarkable positive impact on both parties!
That's why a compliment from a stranger almost always makes my day. Because most times it will be exactly what was on their mind, free of any agenda whatsoever. It's genuine and most believable to me.
5) Compliments are a great ice breaker and converstation starters between people.
我观察到以下原因：
1、 当别人的某件事引起我们的注意，我们希望对此有更多的了解。
示例“你从哪里买的手表？”Vs“漂亮的手表哎！你从哪里买的？”
第二种形式几乎总是能得到期望的响应。
2、 当我们看到令人印象深刻的变化时，要承认某人的努力。
3、为了任何个人利益而奉承某人，而接受者可能知道也可能不知道。
4、 当我们脑海中闪过一个对某人毫无偏见的好想法时，分享它对双方都有显著的积极影响！
这就是为什么一个陌生人的赞美几乎总是能让我开心。因为这都是他们大多数时候的想法，而且没有任何额外目的。对我来说，这是真实的和最可信的。
4、赞美是打破僵局的好方法，也是人与人之间交谈的开始。
I've observed the following reasons:
1) When something of the other person catches our attention and we'd like to know more about it.
Example- "Where did you buy that watch from?" Vs "Nice watch! Where did you buy it from?"
Second form will almost always get the desired response.
2) To acknowledge someone's efforts when we see an impressive change.
3) To flatter someone for any kind of personal gain, which the receiver may or may not be aware of.
4) When an unadultrated good thought about someone crosses our mind, sharing it has a remarkable positive impact on both parties!
That's why a compliment from a stranger almost always makes my day. Because most times it will be exactly what was on their mind, free of any agenda whatsoever. It's genuine and most believable to me.
5) Compliments are a great ice breaker and converstation starters between people.
我观察到以下原因：
1、 当别人的某件事引起我们的注意，我们希望对此有更多的了解。
示例“你从哪里买的手表？”Vs“漂亮的手表哎！你从哪里买的？”
第二种形式几乎总是能得到期望的响应。
2、 当我们看到令人印象深刻的变化时，要承认某人的努力。
3、为了任何个人利益而奉承某人，而接受者可能知道也可能不知道。
4、 当我们脑海中闪过一个对某人毫无偏见的好想法时，分享它对双方都有显著的积极影响！
这就是为什么一个陌生人的赞美几乎总是能让我开心。因为这都是他们大多数时候的想法，而且没有任何额外目的。对我来说，这是真实的和最可信的。
4、赞美是打破僵局的好方法，也是人与人之间交谈的开始。
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